If you know me, you know that I am so incredibly not ready to have babies yet.
And that was one of my fears with being a military spouse - that everyone expects you to be popping out babies because all the women around you are like this:
Thankfully that hasn’t been the case (yet). And this is not to deride moms or anything because I know it’s one of the hardest jobs out there, especially if you’re a military spouse and you’re expected to run the house, your family, your career, and all other life things as essentially a single parent. I mean, that’s part of my fear of being a parent right now.
But back to the main point - I’m glad that my experience in this new squadron so far has not been like that. I’ve been lucky enough to have become friends with three other ladies who are in the same place in life as I am. We’re focused on building our careers and being young and having fun in our 20s; we love our husbands dearly but we like having lives of our own; and, children are currently not part of any of our near future plans. We look more like this:
I was afraid that I’d be the only one in a group of military spouses who feared babies, but luck would have it that I have three other women right there by my side who prefer a drooling dog over a pooping baby right now. And who prefer Wednesday Wine nights over Mommy and Me dates. (I know one day that’ll be us, but right now it’s not.)
I can’t tell you how much of a relief it is to know that I’m not alone here. I
don’t feel feel less like the odd woman out. I feel like I might belong.